Showing posts with label communication. Show all posts
Showing posts with label communication. Show all posts

Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Protect Your Privacy on Social Networks


Social networks are not just for teenagers anymore. The popular web sites that let you connect with people who have shared interests or activities, are now helping adults like Sheilah Etheridge turn up business leads from her home-based accounting and consulting firm in Anchorage, Alaska. But Etheridge will only use select social networking sites because she worries about the privacy of her personal informa"tion.

"Everything we post on the web is obviously out there for all the world to see and it’s out there for eternity,” says Etheridge, a 50-year-old mother of two grown children, ages 22 and 26. She favors networking on LinkedIn because the site pledges not to share her information with anyone other than her “connections.” “The thing that people need to understand is that you’re not only protecting your own privacy but protecting your friends’ privacy, as well."




Some members of the popular social networking site Facebook were in for a rude awakening about privacy as they prepared for the holidays last November. Facebook had launched a new advertising program called Beacon with its retail partners. As a result, details of some members’ private online purchases showed up unbeknownst to them on the Facebook pages of their friends and family members -- spilling the beans about holiday gifts in some cases and embarrassing purchasers. After thousands of Facebook members protested, the company allowed members to “opt out” and keep their purchase information private.

The incident, however, underscored the privacy concerns of social networkers. As adults take up social networking, it’s important to be aware of potential privacy risks to the information that is posted for all to see. Below are top privacy issues that adults -- as well as teens -- need to take into account before posting information (or pictures or video) on the most popular social networks.

Privacy Threat No. 1: Strangers seeing your personal data

The Risk: Having sensitive -- or just embarrassing -- information fall into the hands of identity thieves, prospective employers, college recruiters or even potential mates.

How to protect yourself: Be careful about the information you choose to post on social networks because you don’t always know who is viewing it. “People should assume the content they put online is going to be public,” says Jeremiah Owyang, a senior analyst for Forrester Research who reports on social networking and online communities. That means you should use common sense before you publish sensitive information, such as your birth date, your physical address or your employer.
This includes photos, too. “People don’t always look closely at what’s in the photos that they upload,” says Paul Gillin, author of the upcoming book about social networks, Secrets of Social Media Marketing. “Maybe it’s a photo of them doing something they don’t want other people to know about.”

Privacy Threat No. 2: People seeing what you're doing

The Risk: Stalkers, jealous spouses or suspicious employers keeping an eye on your every move.

How to protect yourself: Turn on privacy settings to select “who” can see “what” in your profile. Many photos and entries of information are time-stamped, meaning that the date and time you post it is recorded and shared with your network of friends or connections. This means your boss may be able to find how much time you spent on Facebook while at work. Or your significant other might see photos you posted frolicking in Miami while you were supposed to be on a business-only trip. Some sites, such as LinkedIn, have adopted privacy policies to never share your information with other users without your consent.

Take advantage of privacy settings on other sites such as Facebook and MySpace. These settings can allow you to limit time stamping, who can view your information, who can see your birth date, or who gets notification when you add friends or applications, also known as web widgets.

Privacy Threat No. 3: Personal data used for marketing

The Risk: Your private data may be used for commercial reasons to target you with online advertising -- and maybe even junk mail -- based on your preferences and activities.

How to protect yourself: Read the fine print before you sign up for any service. Most social networking sites are for-profit companies, and advertising keeps membership free. “The purpose behind social networking sites is supposed to be to enable you to connect with friends and colleagues and do these networking activities,” says John Verdi, staff attorney at the Electronic Privacy Information Center (EPIC), a non-profit privacy advocacy group in Washington, D.C. “What they don’t say is that ‘our real purpose is to mine your data and sell it to the highest bidder.’”

Facebook got a black eye after allowing partners to target ads in a personal way by letting users know what products their friends were buying -- now you can opt out before such data is shared. LinkedIn’s privacy policy says it will never rent or sell your personal information to third parties for marketing purposes, but they allow advertisers to target some ads to general profiles, such as “product managers in Texas.” MySpace allows advertising partners to set web “cookies” on your browser, which track some of your surfing habits, in order to target your advertising. Yet another concern is what personal data is distributed to developers of applications or web widgets that you sign up for on your profile page, such as a world clock or movie trivia contests. “They are third-party applications,” says Verdi. “The social networks don’t vouch for any of them.”

Privacy Threat No. 4: Difficulty deleting information

The Risk: Being haunted by your old social network posts that never die.

How to protect yourself: Make sure you understand the policies of social networking sites when it comes to deleting your personal information or profile content. For example, there was some controversy with Facebook over users not being able to completely delete their profiles. Facebook says it wanted to store the information in case someone wanted to revive their profile, but has caved in under pressure from users to allow for easier deleting. MySpace and LinkedIn will allow users to delete their profiles. Understand, however, that postings you sent to other users, or content friends copied off your profile or blog, can remain online for eternity. “There are going to be remnants or ghosts,” Owyang says. “Assume that everything you put online is forever.”
Etheridge has one other helpful tip before you put yourself out there on a specific social network: “Speak to other users you know and trust before joining some sites.” In other words, network a bit before you sign up for a network so you can learn more about how the site protects your info -- or doesn’t.


Written by Elizabeth Wasserman known as a freelance writer and editor based in Fairfax, Va. She writes for a variety of publications including Congressional Quarterly Inc. magazine, and she edits the online publication CIO Strategy Center.



Friday, December 26, 2008

Altruism in Islam

Altruism in Islam
(The perfect altruism of the earliest Muslim society, a unique example for later generations)


Source: By Ben Adam (IslamReligion.com) - Published on 13 Nov 2006 - Last modified on 11 Dec 2006

Altruism, selfless acts done for another’s benefit in spite of oneself, is a humanitarian endeavor praised by all societies. Practically every nation on earth has stories of great kings, brave warriors and noble men and women who sacrificed their material possessions, status or even themselves for some or other common good.

Yet, it is without any reservation or hesitation whatsoever that we can point to the religion of Islam for the most perfect, sincere and comprehensive expression of altruism (eethaar in Islamic terminology). The Prophet Muhammad, may God praise him, said in a narration, known to perhaps every devout Muslim:

"None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself." (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)


And with that, altruism instantly becomes a condition of true faith in God, Most High. This act of faith was demonstrated so many times throughout the history of Islam, from Muhammad’s commission as a prophet up until our present times, that to recall even a fraction of the authentic narrations that have reached us would barely touch the surface. However, for the purpose of this discussion, we will do just that.

During the great battle of Yarmuk between the fledgling Islamic state and the Roman Empire, a Companion of the Prophet, Ikrimah b. Abu Jahl, and two other noble warriors were mortally wounded. An able Muslim who was attending to the wounded offered one of the injured warriors some water, but the selfless soldier refused, insisting that one of the other fallen men be offered water first. When the water reached the second man, he too refused to drink before the thirst of the other wounded soldiers was quenched. Alas!, by the time the water had reached the third man, it was already too late: he and the other two soldiers had died. Truly these three paragons of self-sacrifice made manifest the words of their Prophet when he said:

"The best charity is that given when one is in need and struggling." (Ibn Katheer)


"…And they give others preference over themselves even though they were themselves in need…." (Quran 59:9)


The above verse was actually revealed in connection to what was, perhaps, the single greatest act of communal altruism ever witnessed in the history of mankind: the establishment of brotherhood between the Muslim emigrants fleeing persecution in Mecca (the Muhajiroon), and their helpers who took them in Medina (the Ansaar).

The Ansaar made previously untold sacrifices for their brothers in faith, despite the fact that they were themselves in great need. By their deeds, the bonds of brotherhood in the new Medinan society were strengthened and solidified in a manner not seen before or since. Arab was matched with non-Arab, freeman with former slave, Qurayshi (a member of Prophet’s own tribe) with non-Qurayshi, and so on.

"By no means shall you attain righteousness unless you spend of that which you love…." (Quran 3:92)


As an amazing example of how this brotherhood manifested itself, we have the case of the two Companions of the Prophet: Abdur-Rahman b. Awf, who was a Muhajir, and Sa’d b. al-Rabee, an Ansari. Abdur-Rahman narrates in his own words:

"When we came to Medina, the Messenger of God established bonds of brotherhood between me and Sa’d b. al-Rabee. Sa’d said: 'I am the wealthiest of the Ansar, so I will give you half of all my wealth. And see which of my wives you prefer, I will divorce her for you, and when she becomes lawful (as a divorcee), you can marry her.'

I (Abdur-Rahman) said to him: 'I do not need that. (But tell me), is there a marketplace here where people trade?' Sa‘ad said: 'There is the marketplace of Qaynuqa'… And so, the following day Abdur-Rahman went to the market to begin trading. Before long, he was once again wealthy, as he had been in Mecca, and able to marry of his own accord." (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)

"And those who, before them, had homes (in Madina) and had adopted the Faith, love those who emigrate to them, and have no jealousy in their breasts for that which they have been given (from booty and the like), and they give (the emigrants) preference over themselves, even though they were themselves in need. And whomsoever are saved from the covetousness of their own souls, such are they who will be successful." (Quran 59:9)


The altruism of the Medinan Muslims, praised by God in the Quran, was so great in its scope and impact that the Meccan recipients of their brothers’ selflessness were worried there would be no grace left for them! The Companion, Anas b. Malik, said:

"When the Prophet, may God praise him, came to Madina, the Muhajiroon came to him and said: 'O Messenger of God, we have never seen any people more generous when they have the means and more helpful when they have little, than the people among whom we have settled. They have looked after us and they have let us join them and share in all their happy occasions, to such an extent that we are afraid that they will take all the reward (from God in the Hereafter).’ The Prophet said: 'Not so long as you pray for them and praise them.’" (Al-Tirmidhi)

God Himself praised the Companions of Muhammad, both Muhajir and Ansar, for their great many selfless sacrifices and services in His Cause. He, the Almighty, also praised whoever would follow in their footsteps. Let us then follow them, perchance we may too be rewarded in heaven.

"The foremost (in faith) from the Muhajiroon and the Ansar and those who follow them in righteousness; God is well-pleased with them and they are well-pleased with Him. He has prepared for them (the Companions and their followers in righteousness) gardens under which rivers flow to dwell therein forever - that is the supreme success." (Quran 9:100)

Saturday, December 13, 2008

Asah Empati dalam Berkomunikasi :)



Empati berbeda dengan simpati. Saat bersimpati kita larut dalam kondisi yang dialami lawan bicara. Sementara, ketika berempati kita tidak begitu saja larut tetapi memahami sepenuhnya kondisi lawan bicara. Dengan begitu, kita tetap bisa memandang suatu kondisi secara objektif.

Nah, ciri-ciri orang yang berempati adalah:

Sadar bahwa ketika bertatap muka, dia tidak boleh memfokuskan perhatiannya ke diri sendiri.

Memperhatikan detail, memanfaatkan waktu untuk memperhatikan sekeliling, dan mendengarkan suara-suara yang ada di sekelilingnya.

Mengobservasi dan menginterpretasikan bahasa tubuh

Memperhatikan ungkapan-ungkapan yang tidak direspons orang lain

Mampu membaca hal-hal yang tersirat

Merespek focus dan minat orang lain dan berusaha untuk tidak melanggar privasi orang lain.

Mampu membuat orang lain merasakan respek dan penghargaan dari dirinya


Source Book : Gaul, Meraih Lebih Banyak Kesempatan by Eileen Rachman & Petrina Oemar.

Friday, June 20, 2008

The Cake of Everlasting Friendship :-)

Friendship

Howdy dear friends?
Hope you all always in the marvelous condition :)
How's your day? :)
No matter where you are now, I hope our friendship will growing stronger and stronger for the rest of our lives.
Well, in order to fulfil that, I'd love to share you the receipt of my delicious cake. Its called "The Cake of Everlasting Friendship"
Hmm, it's Yummy you know. Check the receipt out, okidoki :)

Ingredients :

* Two (or more) human beings of any size, shape or colour
* A large bowl (filled to the brim) of love
* A generous pinch of forgiveness
* A large dollop of understanding
* A bowlful of trust and loyalty
* A ladle of hope
* Two full cups of laughter
* A large dose of fun
* A bag of smiles
* A whole heap of sharing and caring
* Praise – whenever truly deserved
* As much support as needed to help the cake rise
* A large rounded spoonful of encouragement



Friendship
Method :

1. Put all the ingredients in the bowl. The order in which you add these ingredients does not matter.

2. Stir the ingredients by hand the old-fashioned way. Take as long as you like. Speed is not important. The longer you stir the mixture, the more flavour it will have.

3. From time to time, taste the batter a little and savour the flavour. If you feel that your mixture is lacking in any ingredient, add a generous portion of it immediately.

4. Remember to stir gently. Do not beat your mixture violently, as this could cause the whole cake to fall flat.

5. If you get tired, take a little break to regain your energy, then get back to the task. Never give up until your mixture is absolutely smooth.

6. Pour the mixture into a giant cake tin and pop it into a huge pre-warmed oven.

7. Bake in a warm, slow oven for as long as you need to. From time to time, check your cake.

8. When it is baked to perfection, turn it out on a cake rack

9. Wait for the cake to cool. Then, decorate it with festive icing.

10. This cake can keep for a long, long time. In fact, for a lifetime!



Serving suggestion
Serve on a pretty cake plate. This cake can be enjoyed at all times. Remember to savour every mouthful. It is not often you get to eat a slice of everlasting friendship cake!

NOTE : this cake of everlasting friendship has a quality unlike any ordinary cake. It will last forever if properly looked after. Keep it in a special place and check on it regularly. Give it time and attention even when you are busy with other things. Neglect it at your peril. It might grow old and mouldy if you do. Share it regularly with the special people in your life.

WARNING!!!
Some people are known to use the following ingredients when making friendship cakes, but these are sure to spoil your mixture. We strongly advise you to leave them out altogether.

* Envy
* Greed
* Gossip
* Bad temper
* Anger

Well, it's strongly recommended that you try this receipt, buddies! :)
Later on,let me know how does your cake's taste, okidoki :)
LOVE YOU ^-^